You are still picking up the pieces of your broken heart, too busy in the classic mourning of “no one can understand me”, despising love, and believing that your ex was your soulmate; now you lost him, or maybe you start thinking that your soulmate has not yet been born, or that he doesn’t exist and won’t come to you.
Yet, believe me, we have all gone through despair over lost love and the pain is real, I know it! When this happens, we need to heal our wounds, get back on track, and let our self-esteem be rediscovered.
- 1 Best 8 tips on how to get over your soulmate
- 1.1 1. Remember you are not alone
- 1.2 2. Think that every impediment is beneficial
- 1.3 3. Leave him/her and find yourself
- 1.4 4. Break the habit
- 1.5 5. Don’t think about the causes
- 1.6 6. Let yourself be pervaded by emotions
- 1.7 7. Learn to love
- 1.8 8. Don’t sabotage yourself
- 1.9 9. Ask tarot for some guidance
- 2 My relationship is not going the way I hoped… Can tarot help?
It might seem impossible now but as they say, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. While they will not help you find the ideal man, my tips will help you find the real person you will spend a lifetime with – yourself.
Because if you can’t truly recover and heal from all this pain, you won’t be able to open yourself once again to love! Do you want to know how to get over your soulmate? This guide is for you!
Best 8 tips on how to get over your soulmate
1. Remember you are not alone
First and foremost, I want you to repeat this because I want you to keep in mind that breaking up is a common experience. No matter how painful it may be, always remember that you are not the only one who has gone through the end of a relationship.
You are not the first to be left or betrayed, nor the only one forced to break up with your partner. As much as you are suffering, you too can overcome it, just like so many others before you.
2. Think that every impediment is beneficial
Those who believe in coincidences and have already seen Sliding Doors a billion times will already be nodding: sometimes the end of a story can simply be the prelude to a better one.
3. Leave him/her and find yourself
If a story does not work, most of the time there is a real incompatibility; persisting in looking at history from the perspective of eternity implies a non-acceptance of problems.
A story that ends certainly brings with it a load of pain but overcoming the breakup, though difficult, will be easier than carrying out the burden of a wrong story every day.
Open yourself to the desire for a new path, make this a time of peace and joy, and look to the word end as the beginning: of new possibilities.
4. Break the habit
Sometimes habit cradles us in its safe arms, yet at the same time, it makes us slaves.
One of the most frequent reasons why a relationship cannot be terminated at the right time is the difficulty in breaking the habits that inevitably get in the way of the love story.
Most of the time it is not the real loss of a partner that hurts us, but the emptiness left by established habits.
Think carefully if you suffered for him or because you miss cuddling on the sofa while watching your favorite TV series.
5. Don’t think about the causes
Thinking about the causes of the end of the story is the same as reliving abandonment, fragmenting it, breaking it down into a thousand parts that will force you to deal with feelings of guilt. The effects? Deleterious! When a story ends, remember: the prerogative is never of one person only, but common responsibility.
6. Let yourself be pervaded by emotions
Choking on emotions has the same side effect of feeling sorry for yourself: it is equivalent to not looking inward and thus internalizing the loss. To process the end of a story, it is necessary to go through all the phases that distinguish it: self-destruction, anger, and acceptance.
The end of this path? Rebirth.
7. Learn to love
The most common mistake made during a love story is to confuse love with addiction. Our happiness does not depend on others and it is not to them that we can entrust responsibility for our self-esteem.
Often one’s personal well-being is literally delegated to their partner, an emotional dependence which hinges on a need for approval. Yet love and dependence are not the same thing; love is an internal resource, a source of stimuli, creativity, and positivity, an unconditional act that enriches us, without giving up one’s own and others’ independence.
The need to attach ourselves to our partner and the fear of losing the other actually only makes us lose sight of ourselves.
8. Don’t sabotage yourself
The mind can sometimes set bad traps for us and contribute to self-sabotage, leading to a drop in self-esteem. Remember: you are the architect of your destiny and your happiness depends only on you and your actions.
Avoid looking nostalgically at the photos of your best moments and do not let yourself be hindered. Do not put off leisure and distractions until tomorrow, carry out your commitments and get closer to your goal of joy every day.
9. Ask tarot for some guidance
If you are broken-hearted, suffering, and cannot find the right peace of mind to follow these tips and need some special guidance, ask tarot for a light in the darkness.
Tarot cards can easily give you insight about the current situation and they can also give you the chance to reconnect with yourself with some tips and tricks on how to deal with your pain and get over your soulmate.
Before we continue
I provide these “do it yourself” articles for educational purposes, but it is strongly recommended that you consult an experienced tarot reader such as myself and allow me to help you with guidance and ideas on what paths are best for you.
This way you know it’s being done by someone experienced and knowledgeable and I’m also always here to answer your questions about relationships, marriage, exes, soulmates, and provide follow-up at no additional charge.
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My relationship is not going the way I hoped… Can tarot help?
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