Did you and your partner break up, and you want them back desperately? Maybe you still have feelings for them, but you don’t know if it’s the right thing for you to bring them back into your life? We’ve all been there. The confusion and the pain are so real. During a breakup is important to keep things balanced, calm and in perspective, so you can see things clearly. Often, this moment of suffering and confusion can become a chance to know what you truly want in life and how to create a new improved version of yourself and of the relationship you would like to have. When dealing with a breakup, an ex ritual can definitely help, so you can spend some time reconsidering the situation and let tarot cards guide you through the pain, but also to know more about your ex and bring them back if needed. Let’s see then what an ex ritual is and why it is so good for you and your love life.
- 1 What is an ex ritual?
- 2 When to do an ex ritual?
- 3 What do you need for an ex ritual?
- 4 The ritual
- 5 How to use the ex ritual to change your life?
What is an ex ritual?
An ex ritual is a ritual you perform after a breakup to bring more clarity over your love life and the situation between you and your former partner but also to know all you need to know to work things out and yes, get your ex back!
When to do an ex ritual?
You can do an ex ritual when you need it the most. If for example you have a painful day when you thought you had recovered and you feel that you need answers to keep going and to keep living your life, then use your ex ritual to gain more insight into how to heal yourself and finally make it out the other side. Sometimes after a breakup we have many questions about our ex, our relationship, what went wrong but also often we are in need of a deeper insight on some important questions, like, “Is there someone else in my ex’s life?” or, “Was it true love or just a crush?”
You could also unveil those things left unsaid that can make a huge difference in the way you decide to proceed with your life and with your ex. I highly suggest doing this ritual at night when you can finally take some time to relax and rest and leave the day behind. If you want to use a specific time of the week to do it you can do your ex ritual on a Friday, the day designed for all things love and passion!
Also read: Here’s How to Ask Tarot Questions About Love [51 Examples]
What do you need for an ex ritual?
You don’t need that much for an ex ritual!
You just need the following:
- A red candle (or a white one if you don’t have a red candle)
- A tarot deck you feel connected with
- A picture of your ex
- A journal or a piece of paper
I mention a journal as I think that, when exploring the world of tarot readings, a journal can be amazing to keep note of all the cards, the spreads, the messages and the lessons the cards want us to know. In case you are not interested in such thing you can use something as basic as a piece of paper to write down what needed. The picture of your ex is needed to truly focus on him and to visualize him while asking the questions.
Also read: What are Tarot Cards Based On? [Major and Minor]
Light up your candle, look at the picture of your ex and visualize them. Then take your journal or the piece of paper and write the question you would like to ask down. If you have more than one question, that’s totally fine! Create a list of all the things you would like to know! The most important thing for you is to focus on one question at the time when asking the questions to your tarot card. Now grab your deck, shuffle the cards while choosing one question from the questions list you created. Don’t forget to focus on one question at the time. Try prefacing your questions with something such as, “My dear tarot, I would like to know…” and then you can lay the cards down. You can go for a classic 3 cards spread as a start. If you don’t have a specific question in mind, you can use this love spread for this ex ritual.
The ex spread for the ritual
- What went wrong?
- Is there someone else between us?
- Are we going to get back together?
- What can we do to work things out?
This is a simple spread with some of the most frequently asked questions. You can use your own questions and use a similar spread to know more about your ex and the situation between the two of you. After the reading, try to cherish the message tarot cards want you to know by writing everything down. You can even rely on your own intuition first and then look for the meaning of the cards in a guidebook.
How to use the ex ritual to change your life?
The ex ritual can help you know more about the situation
Some exes just call it quits and disappear with no explanation. Sometimes, they do it on purpose, sometimes they don’t even know the reason why they need to leave, but they do. To know more about the situation, you can use tarot cards to gain an insight into it.
The ex ritual can help you know if you and him will get back together
Maybe this is all that matters to you, but how can we know about this? Tarot cards know if some couples are meant to be. Knowing if you and your ex still have a chance can be a great way to find a way into a positive attitude towards life and your future but also to know if you need to let it go or fight for it.
The ex ritual can help you know how to make it work
Tarot cards love to tell stories, so you need to listen to them carefully and openly. They usually tell you way more than just if he is going to get back or not. Tarot cards offer lessons and tips on how to manage things and what you can do to make it work! You just have to use their guidance and be open to accepting the messages tarot cards have for you even if it’s not what you would like to hear!
If you like tarot, but you are not comfortable with doing a tarot reading yourself, I can help you with one of my professional readings!